Girls are prone to low self esteem during their teenage years and this often causes them a lot of stress. It can be hard for a young girl to tackle her self esteem issues as it involves such a deep inner sense of poor self worth. However it is much easier for them to think in terms of stress relief and relaxing - which often leads to a change of self perception as a by-product!
Openly show that you can't keep your hands off her.Buy her nice presents and express how you like seeing using the items.Praise her when her friends are there and express how much you love her.Read a poem to her or dedicate a song for her, if you can sing then it makes it even better.Have a date every week, dress well for her.When dining out, look at her like its your first date and tell her how much she is so beautiful to you all the time.Hold her hand across the table and tell her how much you adore her.
Helping yourself - find the best way to relax that works for you. Taking long baths, having regular massage, learning a progressive relaxation technique from CD's you can listen to anytime, walking, reading. Music can also work really well when you find music you can just drift with and let your mind float freely without worrying.Exercise - this is a great stress reducer and classes such as yoga or Pilates can be particularly good for releasing tension and helping to find a more balanced state of mind. Teenage girls often like yoga as it doesn't demand great expertise and you can dress very comfortably in loose clothing in the classes. However any form of exercise will help in a stress relief programme so if it football, dancing, running or hockey - it doesn't matter!
Start small - tackle one thing at a time. Don't try to do too much. Learn one technique and then use it for a while and also tackle one stressful situation at a time.Amanda Strang is a psychologist and psychotherapist working with parents and families all over world. Her interest is in what makes healthy, happy families and she has developed many training programmes for children, parents and carers to build skills to make successful family units.Self esteem can be a confusing thing for many people, and in my experience it is usually women and girls who have the most problems with it so ladies, this article is for you!
When I was around 14 years old I got involved in my first serious relationship, I was treated like dirt, I was cheated on and lied to and never trusted a pretty woman I met ever since.When I reached 20 years old I realized that I was having negative responses to all women who I considered to be attractive! I realize that I pushed them away so hard because I thought they would potentially hurt my feelings just like what happened when I was 14 years old!
The initial step in building self esteem back to a healthy level could possibly be the toughest. It requires total honesty with oneself. The mask of deception and false representations of oneself must be taken off and the individual must be able to see herself as open and bare.Some of the masks could be in the form of anger. Anger is a defense mechanism that could be used to protect against others from seeing what is really going on inside of a person. The anger mask is put on when the individual feels threatened in some way. To those on the other side of the mask, the persona of toughness is seen, when actually on the inside of the anger, fear resides. There is also the fear from the discovery of inadequacies being revealed. Beneath the "anger mask" sits vulnerability and perceived weakness.
Resist Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive massive social pressure that is placed on us in our western environment. If you look at tv, the media, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very congruent pattern that is telling us that we must have a small bum and firm breasts or else we are unattractive. This whole social misconception is so fundamentally flawed that I could write a whole book on it!
There is also the "Pollyanna mask". These masks keep everyone on the other side in a constant state of desiring to be more like miss perfect as she is always so sweet and kind. Pollyanna never makes mistakes and everything always seems to be going just right with her. In all actuality, she is oftentimes the sickest of all of us. Underneath her mask, she is far from perfect and keeping the persona of being so perfect prevents her from forming real relationships. Nobody ever truly knows who Pollyanna-miss perfect really is, not even herself.
Something that is a lot more attractive than looks however is a confident attitude. I have countless male friends who have confided in me that a womans attitude can be VERY addictive and override the fact she may not be a barbie doll look-a-like. A woman with an attractive, positive attitude will in the end receive much more attention than a model with low self esteem and the personality of a tree. This is great because a personality you can develop no matter who you are. A final mindset I'll leave you with is "if something can be done I have just as great a chance as anyone else" is a very humble way to go about life.
Surround yourself with supportive people - A big step to developing self confidence and any self improvement in life is to surround yourself in a supportive environment, filled with people who will be always be willing to encourage you. This may be your family, friends, co-workers, etc. Find people who love you for you and will be there to help you up whenever you are down. Confidence and self esteem cannot grow from an unreceptive environment, so make sure yours is supportive. If they have the opposite affect, get out of there or limit your time spend there as overtime it will have a negative affect on your self confidence, and be a cause of your low self esteem symptoms.I hope these self esteem activities for girls have been helpful to you.
Openly show that you can't keep your hands off her.Buy her nice presents and express how you like seeing using the items.Praise her when her friends are there and express how much you love her.Read a poem to her or dedicate a song for her, if you can sing then it makes it even better.Have a date every week, dress well for her.When dining out, look at her like its your first date and tell her how much she is so beautiful to you all the time.Hold her hand across the table and tell her how much you adore her.
Helping yourself - find the best way to relax that works for you. Taking long baths, having regular massage, learning a progressive relaxation technique from CD's you can listen to anytime, walking, reading. Music can also work really well when you find music you can just drift with and let your mind float freely without worrying.Exercise - this is a great stress reducer and classes such as yoga or Pilates can be particularly good for releasing tension and helping to find a more balanced state of mind. Teenage girls often like yoga as it doesn't demand great expertise and you can dress very comfortably in loose clothing in the classes. However any form of exercise will help in a stress relief programme so if it football, dancing, running or hockey - it doesn't matter!
Start small - tackle one thing at a time. Don't try to do too much. Learn one technique and then use it for a while and also tackle one stressful situation at a time.Amanda Strang is a psychologist and psychotherapist working with parents and families all over world. Her interest is in what makes healthy, happy families and she has developed many training programmes for children, parents and carers to build skills to make successful family units.Self esteem can be a confusing thing for many people, and in my experience it is usually women and girls who have the most problems with it so ladies, this article is for you!
When I was around 14 years old I got involved in my first serious relationship, I was treated like dirt, I was cheated on and lied to and never trusted a pretty woman I met ever since.When I reached 20 years old I realized that I was having negative responses to all women who I considered to be attractive! I realize that I pushed them away so hard because I thought they would potentially hurt my feelings just like what happened when I was 14 years old!
The initial step in building self esteem back to a healthy level could possibly be the toughest. It requires total honesty with oneself. The mask of deception and false representations of oneself must be taken off and the individual must be able to see herself as open and bare.Some of the masks could be in the form of anger. Anger is a defense mechanism that could be used to protect against others from seeing what is really going on inside of a person. The anger mask is put on when the individual feels threatened in some way. To those on the other side of the mask, the persona of toughness is seen, when actually on the inside of the anger, fear resides. There is also the fear from the discovery of inadequacies being revealed. Beneath the "anger mask" sits vulnerability and perceived weakness.
Resist Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive massive social pressure that is placed on us in our western environment. If you look at tv, the media, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very congruent pattern that is telling us that we must have a small bum and firm breasts or else we are unattractive. This whole social misconception is so fundamentally flawed that I could write a whole book on it!
There is also the "Pollyanna mask". These masks keep everyone on the other side in a constant state of desiring to be more like miss perfect as she is always so sweet and kind. Pollyanna never makes mistakes and everything always seems to be going just right with her. In all actuality, she is oftentimes the sickest of all of us. Underneath her mask, she is far from perfect and keeping the persona of being so perfect prevents her from forming real relationships. Nobody ever truly knows who Pollyanna-miss perfect really is, not even herself.
Something that is a lot more attractive than looks however is a confident attitude. I have countless male friends who have confided in me that a womans attitude can be VERY addictive and override the fact she may not be a barbie doll look-a-like. A woman with an attractive, positive attitude will in the end receive much more attention than a model with low self esteem and the personality of a tree. This is great because a personality you can develop no matter who you are. A final mindset I'll leave you with is "if something can be done I have just as great a chance as anyone else" is a very humble way to go about life.
Surround yourself with supportive people - A big step to developing self confidence and any self improvement in life is to surround yourself in a supportive environment, filled with people who will be always be willing to encourage you. This may be your family, friends, co-workers, etc. Find people who love you for you and will be there to help you up whenever you are down. Confidence and self esteem cannot grow from an unreceptive environment, so make sure yours is supportive. If they have the opposite affect, get out of there or limit your time spend there as overtime it will have a negative affect on your self confidence, and be a cause of your low self esteem symptoms.I hope these self esteem activities for girls have been helpful to you.
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