Dangerous word...that word "should."
There's a lot attached to that word. A lot of suffering comes from the word. A lot of pain, a lot of grief, and a lot of expectation.
That word can do a lot of damage in your life and keep you stuck completely in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
The very fact of the matter is that it didn't go that way at all.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When your "should" lives in the past, you can't come to terms with what happened because it "should" have happened another way. You can't accept what happened. You can't accept the fact that the reality is the reality. Instead, you are trying to live in an alternate world that doesn't exist.
So what do we need to do? Come back to the present moment.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to come back.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
These dark times will always be there.
But what will make us suffer even more is not accepting the truth...
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No living in the past...because we've accepted it.
No living in the future...because the only moment we have is right now.
You're here.
So stay connected with the present moment.
Accept.
There's a lot attached to that word. A lot of suffering comes from the word. A lot of pain, a lot of grief, and a lot of expectation.
That word can do a lot of damage in your life and keep you stuck completely in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
The very fact of the matter is that it didn't go that way at all.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When your "should" lives in the past, you can't come to terms with what happened because it "should" have happened another way. You can't accept what happened. You can't accept the fact that the reality is the reality. Instead, you are trying to live in an alternate world that doesn't exist.
So what do we need to do? Come back to the present moment.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to come back.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
These dark times will always be there.
But what will make us suffer even more is not accepting the truth...
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No living in the past...because we've accepted it.
No living in the future...because the only moment we have is right now.
You're here.
So stay connected with the present moment.
Accept.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Bible Verses or these Hope Quotes to get some motivation to move forward!
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